strike a deal with herbribery works everytime, but do it on your terms. Given the choice of two things (both of which can be beneficial for all parties) children will chose one or the other.
As their identity establishes itself, they become aware of being able to manipulate their surroundings, that includes you! The good thing is, if you can help direct it rather than get frustrated about it. Not easy I know, but resolute and consistent resolve works now and therefore the future
We've been doing that.A sticker chart with smiley faces for when she stays in bed all night. It worked well with her potty training. In fact she cracked that within a week. SHe started calling from the top of the stairs a moment ago and I tried to talk to her about her stickers.
"Do you want a smiley sticker on your chart tomorrow?"
"No."
Oh
"do you want one tomorrow?"
"no"
"ok, have you finished yet?"
"hang on"
she knows how to get round you
learn to get round her, each time she learns the trick you have to be smarter...in the end they figure it out and do it anyway....sometimes
I had a screaming fit tonight.
She was yelling like she was being killed for an hour and then got asked if she wanted a smack and to be quiet or she would get one.
She shouted NO! and got a smack.
Then she had a small pause and began screaming again for another hour before sleeping.
I should stress, this is the sound of a child being murdered, but if you are with her you see that it is not so much screaming as shouting the sound of a scream. She is a little distressed, but mostly it is just noise making.
we're all not perfect :)
its all trial (sic) and error, I would have responded to the 'no' with
WHAT DO THE FUCK YOU WANT THEN!
ah,
the old confuse them and run ploy
I offered her just about everything.
Basically we had the standard protest shrieking because she did not want to be in bed.
The other two had grown out of this by the time they were 18 months, but this one is a shite-bag and no mistake.
don't worry
all parent's pray for the day when they can give it back to their kids
Eldest doesn't have clue what my T-Shirt will be on his 18th in December, by then he'll have lived here 4.5 months
REVENGE BWhahahahhahahhahaa
"ONE"
..
..
"TWO"
you only have to punch them square in the face on "TEN", once
only have to follow the threat of a smacked arse once
if you follow it through. Useless if you back down from anything you say will happen, if it doesn't...empty threats they suss out quick
hit me - Iann Dury - live in Brrixton circa 1983